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Welcome

Got a tween/teen?
Just. Keep. Swimming.

I ran across a handful of survival tips for the tween/teen years for parents articles recently. One particular stuck out by Katie Hurley, LCSW, website Practical Parenting. Here’s her list and some I added.
Parenting Survival Tips for the Tween/Early Teen years:

  • Be a parent (respectful one of course), not a friend – They need help during this confusing time as they experience massive physical and emotional changes. Help them cope and handle difficult situations.
  • Set clear expectations – Rules and limits should grow with their age. Give them some wiggle room to be themselves but teach them balance between asserting themselves and adhering to limits.
  • Communicate often – listen first respond accordingly. Tell them about your day too. Communication is two ways.
  • Help them find their strengths – Confident tweens make good choices.
  • Make time for one-on-one face to face (let them choose the activity and lead the conversation)
  • Make sure there is a feeling of safety and security at home.
  • When the stress hits, give them or yourself space if needed.
  • Avoid responding to anger with anger.
  • You will hear go away or leave me alone. It’s normal. Don’t take it personal. At some point, they will need a safety net and need to know you will always be there for them to be their guide and to help them when they want or need you the most.
  • A sense of humor helps!
  • When they (tween/teen) seems the most unlovable is when they need our love the most.
  • When angry, speak an octave softer rather than louder.
  • Don’t take their attitude or behavior personally.
  • Find your strengths and take care of yourself, (put on your own oxygen mask before putting on the child’s)

ADDED from Parents at our November PTO meeting:
“Say 4 positives to 1 negative.”
“Let them fail, especially when they are under your roof.”
“Don’t sweat the small stuff.”
“Pick your battles and pray a lot!!!”
“Ask on Friday if there is a homework assignment due Monday.”
“Give 30 mins. “chill time” after school before asking a bunch of questions.”
“Don’t kill them ☺”
“Encourage them to be themselves. Dare to be different and be unique.”
“Don’t dread Middle school: all 4 of my kids loved it.”
“Choose your battles.”

Any Survival tips you’d like to share? How have you navigated the ups and downs of the tween/teen years? Email me at lorilbriggs@att.net if you’d like to add to the list! I will post on our webpage http://www.cimarronpto.com

 

 

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One comment on “Welcome

  1. So sorry for the delay! Yes you can! You can pay through our PayPal account or still send a check/cash in by this Friday and place payment in the CPTO box in the front office. Please let me know if you need further information!

    Shana

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